FEP20 Holding Space and Shining Light with Rachel Singleton

Rachel Singleton of LightBringer Essences joins us on the podcast to discuss how to meet these challenging times with the help of flower essences. She shares her insights on soothing the heart and opening the crown chakra to find balance and calm during a global pandemic.

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Kathleen Aspenns [00:00:40] Welcome back to the Flower Essence Podcast. Today, I am just delighted to be sharing this time not only with Ro, but with our guest, Rachel Singleton. Rachel Singleton is a professionally trained, Advanced Essence Practitioner. She’s studied homeopathy to post-graduate level and is a Licensed Homeopath and Member of the Lakeland College of Homeopathy. She has also completed a diploma in Therapeutic Healing with the Rowan School of Healing and is a Reiki Master. She worked for several years as a Tutor member of the British Flower and Vibrational Essence Association, an Advanced Essence Practitioner, and as a member of the committee. She has tutored students in the UK and abroad to become accredited Advance Essence Practitioners. Thank you so much for being with us. You’ve been doing this as a therapeutic practice for 20 years, working with people in the UK and you’ve also created your own line of essences, The LightBringer Essences. We are so happy to have you with us. 

Rachel Singleton [00:01:38] Thank you, Kathleen. And Ro, it is absolutely lovely to be here with you. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:01:44] So I’d love to start a little bit with.. Just tell us. I know that you mentioned that you have a fuller, expanded version of your story and how you came to essences on your Website. But we’d love to just know a little bit about you, just to get started and get a feel for what your perspective is on essences and why you got so interested in them in the first place. 

Rachel Singleton [00:02:06] Yeah, so I actually came across them when I was training as a homeopath, so we were very fortunate to have a very forward thinking college that we were part of for homeopathy training myself and my peer group, and we all loved it. The teachers were all passionate and articulate and brilliant homeopaths and amongst them, several of them were using flower essences as part of their practice. So they felt, even with what old homeopathy could do, and with a strong correlation between so many homeopathic remedies and emotional and mental states. They still felt that there was this  whole area that essences touched and were needed for. And they would treat with the two things. So I think it was our first weekend that we walked into one of our lectures and the lecturer came in with a huge bunch of flowers and with all the Australian Bush flower essence cards and spent the next two hours blowing our minds, teaching us about this incredible healing modality. And I didn’t know, as I was about 23 at the time, I didn’t know anything about the Bach Flower Essences. I hadn’t grown up with an alternative background in any way, shape or form. And this was all new to me. And I sat back in that lecture just mesmerized, feeling like I’d absolutely come home. And just the very idea that flowers could be a medicine it just made so much sense to me. I’d grown up with my mom who is a plant historian and she’s deeply interested in everything to do with plant history, herbalism, and especially as it pertains to literature. She weaves the two together. And that’s been her life’s work all along. 

Rachel Singleton [00:04:16] So I’ve grown up with rare plants dotted all over the garden and national plant collections. And just on the other hand, going to nurseries and hanging out there once she’s propagating for somebody or other. And so plants have just been part of my life as a grown up. But this, this was a whole new relationship with them. And it was something about that soulful quality and their beauty and their grace. You know, all of these things just absolutely drew me. So I often joke that I went into my homeopathic training to be a homeopath and I came out as a flower essence practitioner because it was that. But I knew it was really what I was there for. And so I then just followed that passion for the next 20 years. And I also knew on that first afternoon that I was going to make a range of essences and that didn’t emerge until a year or two later. And I do tell that story in detail on the website. But just to say, I mean, my first attempt, I did them completely by the letter, followed Dr. Bach’s instructions and did what I was told. And actually, they didn’t do anything. You know, I gave them to my tutors and people, all excited, and they didn’t do anything. And nobody took much notice of them. They were very kind but, you know. And then I had a much more personal experience, I had the experience of losing someone I loved very much. And throughout that time, the pain was such that I found myself reaching for plants in a way that I never had before, and I was out walking one day. And I knew the only thing that could touch the suffering that I was in was something exquisite. And it was flowers. I just knew that. They spoke the language that I needed at that time and that they would come in deep and tend to me in a way that was safe and intimate and appropriate. And that would reach into all the places that it needed to reach. And that was the day that I made what I call a proper essence. And I think that sort of set the bar for me then, going forward, as to what a flower essence moment is, when we look into a flower and know it is our medicine and know that we need to connect with that at a deeper level than just to sit with the flower, we actually need to take into our being and let it do its work. So I’ve spent the last 20 years letting flowers teach me. 

Rochana Felde [00:07:22] That’s a beautiful story and I love the visual imagery of your growing up with all the rare and exotic flowers everywhere. Do you still practice homeopathy or did you ever after graduating? 

Rachel Singleton [00:07:40] Yeah, I did, actually. And it’s evolved and changed along the way. I use it in a very, very different way now. And I kind of do the opposite to what we were taught then. So I use flower essence as my main modality and I bring in a homeopathic remedy for support here and there if I need it. And what I see the homeopathic remedy doing is..  I don’t know what the word is, really. It’s not that it’s a deeper catalyst, but it’s something a little bit stronger maybe. So, you know, I feel like one of the things that essences do is very much work as a catalyst and there’s a gentle kind of suffused quality to them. And sometimes there’s a more gritty element that a homeopathic remedy can bring in, something deep and constitutional. But by and large, I would say 90 percent of the work that I’m doing is essences rather than homeopathy. 

Rochana Felde [00:08:50] So, for example, some of the homeopathic remedies are flowers that are also flower essences. And I’ve always been curious. I think Calendula might be one. There’s probably a lot of others. How they differ in, you know, is the homeopathic remedy more physical working on symptomatic issues. And then the flower essence, how would you describe the difference? Energetically. 

Rachel Singleton [00:09:26] That’s a really good question. I guess three homeopathic remedies immediately come to mind. So Aconite, Calendula, Crataegus. So Crataegus is Hawthorn, and Crataegus as a herb. If we use it in a really, really physical form is for the heart and soul, balancing, and toning the heart. And then we can use it in a really low dose homeopathically and do exactly the same thing. Or we can use it in a much higher dose to I guess go in deeper to support and catalyse the vital force within the hearts actual function is, you know, so really going in behind even the physical. And then the essence… So for example, in my range is a Hawthorn blossom, and the Hawthorn Berry and Hawthorn Blossom is for knowing the worth of what you have, so counting your blessings, and it’s one that a yearning and a pining for something else. Thinking that the grass is greener over there. So you can see how that comes back to the heart, how the heart, it’s almost like lovesick, pining, yearning. And that brings the heart out of balance so we can use Hawthorn blossom as an essence to help the person reorientate with the fact that actually, you know, they have got all these beautiful seeds in their life waiting to blossom, but they have what they need. That spirit has given them that. And Hawthorn Berry is for receiving the fruits of our labors, getting our hearts desire, so that came up with observing so many people who worked very hard but often don’t read the rewards of it. So maybe the tendency to work, and keep working, and keep working takes away from the actual sitting back and receiving what comes from that. The joy of creating and manifesting and achieving. And before they rush onto the next project, the next thing that they want to work on. And all of these are different aspects of treating the heart and working with it. So. Yeah. You know, it is fascinating to look at one plant through different modalities, isn’t it? 

Rochana Felde [00:12:11] Yeah, it really is. And as an herbalist, I look at it that way as well. So I’m not as familiar with homeopathy. I know enough to probably be dangerous, but I love looking at the homeopathic proving and literature to also help inform, you know, another dimension of flower essence work. So I think it’s really interesting to see how they’ve evolved, how they were developed and what they’re used for. And if that has anything that can help inform the way the flower essence can be used as well. 

Rachel Singleton [00:12:59] Yeah, I would agree with that. And there’s been so many from the new meditative proving that, you know, this whole range of kind of new homeopathic remedies over the last 10 or 20 years, which focus much more on gems and crystals and sea salt and trees. And their energy is so close to essences. It’s like they’re a bridge between the old homeopathy, which feels like it comes from a different era and this homeopathy, which feels like it’s been born out of these times. And then essences. And it’s those new remedies that I’m really loving to use because they have a lightness to them. They’re less likely to kind of trigger any aggravations or intensification of symptoms. And they seem to be truly transformational, really touching the spiritual as well as the rest of the energy being. And it’s a delight to work with them. 

Rochana Felde [00:14:10] Are those a certain brand or how do we know what the new ones are? 

Rachel Singleton [00:14:19] So there’s some really good books out there. Colin Griffiths has done some very good books. He’s got a couple of materia medicas, and Madeline Evans has got a couple of books. And they were both from the circle of homeopaths who were particularly doing these new provings. But I would imagine they’re not the only ones. That was in the UK. I imagine there’ll be other ones. So there’s pharmacies in the UK like Helios Homeopathic Pharmacy. But yeah, it’s really interesting to look at those things like Emerald, which is for shock, like going into hospital.. And you know, there’s just so many interesting remedies and that kind of touch in this middle ground, I think. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:15:14] And it brings us into this moment, this extraordinary moment in which we’re living and how we can be bringing this nature’s healing patterning into our own lives, into this process of of managing what’s happening, and and meeting it with the most grace as we can. And how are you.. I love that you’re using the modern homeopathy. I’ve had a little bit of experience with that. And you’re right, it really does feel different. It really does have a different energetic. And I think to it, you’re talking from your early experiences with the Bach essences, of how they are of a different time and and now the more modern essences, not that the old ones are bad or anything, but, you know, in this moment more modern essences are meeting us in a different place. And depending on the client you’re working with or whatever, you meet them with essences that meet them where they are. And so many of us are working with this moment right now that’s pretty extraordinary. And how are you helping your clients in this moment? I think that you too, in the UK, are under a shelter in place order. That’s where we are in California, and in a lot of the United States. 

Rachel Singleton [00:16:37] Yeah. I don’t know how recent it is for you. I mean, we’ve really gone to lock down within the last few days, so everybody is still adjusting to this. And yeah, there’s been a lot of fear in the air for sure. A lot of fear and a lot of drawing lines and boundaries, so people not wanting people who don’t live in an area to come to my area and if they are, then measures are being taken which are not very friendly. So there’s a sense of some defensiveness and moral policing going on for sure, that’s dominating a lot of the general conversations. And then I think behind closed doors there’s some real vulnerability and fear and isolation. And yet one of the things that I’ve heard a lot is people who are just saying, you know what, I’m loving that the traffic stops, and loving that there’s no airplanes flying overhead and the skies just clear. Loving that. Everyone’s unplugging, and going quiet, and coming back to what matters and spending time in the homes with the loved ones, reading..  you know, the sense that this is their opportunity. This is a time when we can go quiet and go within. And each time I hear that, I smile, you know, I guess that that to me feels like the best response. You know, this sense of almost like the quietness is the remedy. And certainly when I’m when I’m talking to people, I’m just feeling like this. But what I want to do is to just be very quiet and very present and really here. You know, what is the distress here? And that feels more important than ever before. And just allowing space for that to be witnessed and felt. Because we don’t need to judge our feelings, we don’t need to judge our vulnerability or our fears. We really want to be making space for them. That’s how we move through them so quickly. Recognize them as energy and as energy in motion, emotion that just needs to move through us. And as we do that, and we don’t resist that process, then it loosens beautifully. And that movement to us is cleansing, aligning, and it helps us adjust to the new situation. So so for me, it’s really about facilitating and supporting. How does that resonate for you two? 

Rochana Felde [00:19:58] Well, we’re going through a similar thing here and isn’t that interesting? I mean, we know this is a global phenomenon, but here it is really validating to speak to someone from across the pond, so to speak, that is going through such a similar thing as Sonoma County, California. You know, we’ve been in shelter-in-place for a little bit longer. It’s been over a week, 10 days or something like that. And at first the parks were open. And we live near the coast. And so it was OK to go out to parks and the coast. As long as people kept their 6 foot distance. And over the last weekend, it exploded. It was like spring break or something. And hundreds and hundreds of people had been crowding all of the parks and not honoring the six foot distance. And so it was a big problem and it caused them to now close all the parks, which is heartbreaking. They’re saying people should just kind of stick in their neighborhood and, you know, stay in their own place. And also there’s a lot of vacation rental homes around where I live. And so that’s another big controversy. Should people be staying in a rental home right now and stressing the resources of the small communities? So it sounds very similar to what’s happening in your area. But from the emotional standpoint, I can really attest to feeling the need to just stay grounded and hold the space for people. And I find for me personally, you know, it’s a process. You know, because we’re also going through it ourselves. And so I’m constantly cycling with my own process and then clearing that away to hold space and bring in the light for a client or a family member, whoever is going through something. And then after that’s over, I’ll have to do my clearing. And it feels like a lot of work. But I resonated with what you said about the acceptance, because once there’s that free feeling of acceptance, it seems to flow a little easier for me. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:22:43] And what I’m experiencing is just that for myself and for the people that I’m interacting with, clients and family members and friends and all that, just everyone is responding to this in ways that speak to where their wounds are. And, you know, there’s not just one way to experience the fear. Some people are doing it in one direction, which could be really kind of manic and frantic. And then some people are doing it from a reactive place and wanting to keep that away from them as much as possible. So I’m just really trying to notice and watch and feel it in myself. Also, for me, the biggest thing that’s coming up after the initial phase of feeling that frantic, immediate trauma heading my way.. And this is also triggering on, less than six months ago, we had the fires here and having to evacuate and almost having our homes burn down. You know, those sorts of things got retriggered a little bit. And now it’s a little bit more of what feels like grief to me. I feel this wave of grief coming my way. And it’s  speaking to a lot of my personal grief experiences. And I’m just trying to meet it and accept it and not need to make it go away or whatever. I love what you’re saying, Rachel, about the spaciousness of allowing. And I think that’s what we’re talking about as practitioners, when we create that spaciousness and allow our clients to be where they are. It’s a lot like the way nature meets us. Right? Nature isn’t trying to fix that and do this quickly and make it go away. Nature just holds us. And we could just be in a place with a tree, with a flower, with the plant and feel that gentle acceptance and holding. And it allows everything to flow. 

Rachel Singleton [00:24:46] Beautiful. Yeah, I really feel that. You know, I feel we’ve got that example and that touchstone all the time, haven’t we? Around us. And I’m loving how light it is so early in the morning and birdsong is so glorious early in the morning, and so I’m finding myself waking with that. And just wanting to go outside before the very few people who are going outside are out there. And there’s something about the days just washed clean at that time. You know, the energy is so pristine. And I’m sitting in that, and feeling the rock beneath you and the tree behind you. And it’s so earthing. And so real. You know what, we’re having a very, very human experience here. The rest of nature is oblivious to what we’re going through and the real world is carrying on. And there’s something about just touching in on that regularly and getting that grounding again. It’s very helpful. And I think our consultation space is this. I often think of it as the essence bowl. You know, I think of how when we make an essence and we have that clear crystal bowl of pristine spring water. And we put the blossoms in. We wouldn’t want to take the essence if that water got muddied. Or things went in that contaminated the water in some way. And I have to think of the consultation space as this space for that clear self to blossom. And that involves doing a lot less than we think, and it involves being with, and quietly seeing both the trauma and the turmoil that is coming through and also the absolute wholeness of that person in spite of what they’re feeling. Because both are true, at the same time, you know that they are feeling that brokenness essentially in that moment. And we see and we hear that. And know that that’s absolutely their reality. In that moment, and there is a bigger reality and that is that they are never anything less than how. And again, there’s something about essences that speaks to that, isn’t it? You know, because essences are about full, glorious flower at the point at the peak of its growth. It’s the culmination of everything that plant is, when it bursts into flower and then it’s so delicate, that silken, beautiful blossom. And so fragile and yet it’s giving everything. It’s not holding back. And I think that we are, as practitioners, it’s lovely to think of creating an environment that allows that kind of blossom. 

Rochana Felde [00:28:25] And I really see the light coming into the flowers when they’re in that full peak and when the essence is being made. And I love that you called your line the LightBringer Essences. It’s very apropos. 

Rachel Singleton [00:28:46] Yeah, yeah. And it felt very much like it was about what we’ve just been saying, I guess. You know, it’s partly that flowers are embodied light and they are full of that at the moment when we get the essence, and then we get to take that in. But also they’re speaking to the light in us and we bring our own light as well. And for me, what essences really point back to is our essential self. You know, so I remember when we were first taught them. And it’s often the way that you have people first speak about them when they use them to begin with, saying, what’s the right essence for this? What do we take for grief or what do we take for this? And there’s a sense in which we know we can take an essence to calm or be a balm for an emotional state. But there’s a deeper level, which is that essences don’t need to be taken to correct an uncomfortable emotion. We can take them to activate our connection with our deeper self, to make it more luminous. So that we can live from that place more. Does that resonate for you, too? 

Rochana Felde [00:30:13] Absolutely, yeah. I wondered if you wanted to talk about some of the flowers, the plant allies you’ve worked with for the LightBringer range on that theme. I was looking at your Web site and I saw this Light Support combination, and looking at the flowers in that, and seeing that some of those are some that I’m familiar with, and some that I’m not. So, yeah. Is there anything that comes up to you in this? As far as appropriate for this conversation about holding space and shining light in these times? 

Rachel Singleton [00:30:59] Yeah, I was I was listening to your previous podcast when you were really responding to kind of how we can ground, how we can tend the base chakra, and look after ourselves in these times when that part of us can feel quite trembly and destabilised. And that brings up all kinds of primal fears and the rage and all of that sort of stuff. And in a sense, we can also look to the crown chakra and see a really nice counterbalance for when our root chakra is disturbed as well. So when we when we go up into the spiritual and into that connection that we have that. And it’s like that interface, the crown chakra between our spiritual self and our human self. And that’s the opening the gateway for us to really connect with spirit, energy, divinity, mystery. However, we want to speak of it. That’s within us that surrounds. And yeah, there’s some really beautiful essences that can help with that. The Light Support Combination is definitely one of them. That’s kind of our emergency essence in our range. And it’s for staying deeply grounded through your roots and open through your chakra, through your crown chakra. So there’s this idea of the.. Coming right down through the spinal cord, deep alignment through your center, connecting down with your roots, with spirit, and you centered and stable in that. So it’s lovely and clarifying and light and yet deeply sustaining and supporting. So I feel myself stabilized with that within seconds. And it was the very first combination. So it’s been around now for 20 years. So we’ve had so much feedback from this over the years. And it’s like anyone who comes to the range just seems to automatically buy that and then work their way out from there. 

Rachel Singleton [00:33:18] And one of the essences in there is the very first one I made on the day when I was grieving and needed something. Exquisite and gentle. And that was Angel Star, another name Lesser Stitchwort. The name came to me from my grandmother and from her ghost. It came whispering through to me, this is what I was to call it. And then this would be the first essences of the range. And it’s for finding our way in dark times. And I often think of it as like a tiny little golden thread in the dark maze. And it doesn’t matter how dark the maze has gotten, the golden thread stays true and it will lead you out. And that thread is our connection back to our true Selves, with a capital S. And that Self that’s aligned, and whole, and deeply well in all circumstances, and that it seems to pull us back into that truth. So  when we have that experience of just lots of voices and opinions in our head, kind of we don’t know which way to turn and we’re feeling cloudy and dark and there’s lots of things pulling on us and Angel Star is this quiet connection that seems to enable all of that to fall away. And this essence is like golden light, which is for being able to see our future, not through the eyes of fear, when suddenly everything can look bleak, when we’re feeling like that. But to see it, to trust, to actually see, the dreams of what’s our potential, our future, to really walk into that. To be able to envision it and to be able to walk into that. And another favorite of mine is Grass of Parnassus, which is the most beautiful flower. A lovely kind of mountain flower. And it’s like it looks like a little chalice of pearlescent light, and it has a single stem, and that stem grows up through this one single leaf, which is heart-shaped, which curls around the stem. So in order for this crown flower to grow, it has to come up through the heart. You know, the symbolism of that, it’s just so beautiful. And it’s about really being able to own and stand in our own magnificence, our own purity, our own innocence, our own beauty. And it’s particularly indicated when people are leaking their power and their light away. So you know how some people who, when you compliment them,  they just dismiss it. They just can’t take it and they can’t let it in. And I think that would be an example of leaking power away, or someone who puts themselves down or hides their light under a bushel. You know, all of these ways in which we can deny that we are the life that we are. And Grass of Parnassus is just beautiful for stabilizing that connection and teaching you how to stand in it. And for me, the experience of making.. It was only my second essence and the experience of making it was phenomenal. As I went to make it I had this incredibly strong vision, and I saw my own aura as having all these dark holes in it, and it was just like, I’ve never seen this before. I was just suddenly shown my entire energy field. I saw these dark holes in it and then I saw these flower heads being put in those holes to fill them. And they weren’t pointing outwards. They were pointing inwards and they were radiating back to me my light. So the impact of it was intensely uncomfortable. Not only was I.. I was obviously used to having an aura full of holes and quite happily leaking everything away. So they plug that, which is difficult enough on it’s own. Not only that, but then they radiate back, and mirror back this luminescence. And I was shown this is potential, what you could be standing in, and this is how you can help others. Get comfortable with being a light being, and that was an incredibly powerful lesson and very challenging. You know, I still think I’m challenged by that. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:38:02] It sounds like a real growth place for a lot of people. You know, certainly I know that I’ve experienced that myself. It’s in order to not threaten anyone you’ve tried to be real small, and keep yourself down so that you won’t stick your head up above and get it whacked off. You know, there’s all of these pieces like, “who do you think you are?” You know, it comes down to the shame that comes from what we’re taught that, you know, being shiny and bright and brilliant is not really OK. You need to be fit in, and be smaller, and your field gets full of holes. 

Rachel Singleton [00:38:43] Yeah. And I think, you know, the association with being shiny and brilliant is that it’s somehow egotistical, arrogant or brazen in some way. And we all know that that’s not. What true potency looks like, you know, you look at our great spiritual teachers of these times, people like the Dalai Lama, Eckhart Tolle, there’s so many of them, you know, they are humble, beautiful beings of light. They do light with grace and gentleness. There’s no bravado about it. And I think when we reclaim, are re-aligned to this softer, more wholesome view of what it is to be in our power. It starts to become more accessible and we realize that we don’t have to go and shout about ourselves. But we also don’t have to deny ourselves, and put ourselves down, and not make a full spiritual contribution to this life. Because, really, that’s what we’re here to do. 

Rochana Felde [00:39:58] Yeah, going back to that combination when I saw it, it really called out to me. I really resonated with the Light Support. And the first essence that you talked about Angel Star, I thought, hmm, what is what is that? And saw that it was Stellaria graminea. Yeah. And that’s really interesting because we have a common spring green here that’s blooming right now called Chickweed, which is Stellaria media. And I made an essence with that a while ago, when I first started making essences, and found something similar, with a real sense of that connection to the starry universe. You know, I was sitting in a field of chickweed and just feeling like they were all little twinkling stars, you know, on the earth and pulling in that universal light energy and helping us feel like we’re part of a grand design and something bigger than ourselves. So I’ve always had this real fondness for that flower, and I love to see it, and to hear your story about it being the first essence that you made. You know, they look very similar as well in their pictures. But I haven’t met the one that you’re talking about. 

Rachel Singleton [00:41:34] Yeah, because we have Chickweed here. And you’re right. You know, they related. And yeah, very, very similar energies. Stellaria graminea means grass-like star. And it’s actually got incredibly fine stems so that you can hardly see them. And what it does is it uses the stability of kind of more robust plants, and it grows up amongst them, and they hold it upright because it would just get flattened otherwise. And so you don’t really see and amongst all of that other foliage it’s stem. And so all you see is this constellation of stars in amongst all the other plants. And it’s as if it has just appeared there by magic. It’s absolutely beautiful. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:42:20] Lovely. I’m really delighted that you came back to that. I was so excited to hear about that particular plant and how compelling it seems. And as you were describing it in describing the essence qualities, it really brought me back to Cerato from Dr. Bach, of that quality of connecting to that soul self, connecting to that higher sense of self. And that speaks to me because that was one of the essences in his line that originated in the Himalayas. And I’ve connected with this plant in a wild state, and really feel that it was a transcendent kind of essence for the line. It really speaks to that ability to reconnect to your true self, to your soul. That is above all of the other chitter chatter and the things your mind says. And it reminded me of an essence I’ve made, what I call Little Cerato, which is Ceratostigma minus rather than Ceratostigma willmottianum. It’s a different species, but has a much smaller flower, and it grows much more upright. But I find it has that quality that you’re talking about in this essence, of helping you ground, but also connect to the higher self, with that sky-blue color. And so it brings in that crown chakra, that wisdom that can flow through those two poles of your being, that uprightness that we’re grounded but we’re also spiritual. Two things are happening at once, like you were saying, that we can hold both things in one in one space. 

Rachel Singleton [00:44:12] Yeah, that’s beautiful. There’s another plant that springs to mind. I don’t know whether you have this growing. We know it as One-Flowered Wintergreen, Moneses uniflora. And this is a really rare plant over here. So it grows in Scot’s Pine woodland, old Scot’s Pine woodlands, and they need to be coastal so that they’re on sand. And so that’s its habitat and nothing else. And there’s a nature reserve up in the north of Scotland that has those ideal circumstances. And they have it protected. It’s growing there. And it’s only two or three inches high. And again, it’s one that’s just a single stem to a single flower. And it looks like a little old fashioned street lamp. You know, the ones that kind of would just bow over. And these really nice old street lamps, and they’d shine that little bit of light, just that pool of light just under where they were. And so it has this lovely white flower, very graceful. And it just looks down on this particular area. And this is an essence for spiritual sight, being able to see your life with spiritual eyes. So the key note for it is “good in all things”, for seeing the good in all things. And so often we’re in a situation and we see it from our personality level. You know, we see it from, okay, how does this impact me? And then maybe, how does this impact my family and there is that, you know, the personal human level, which is absolutely fine and absolutely appropriate, and we need to take care of that. But sometimes we can get stuck if we only look at our life from there. And if we don’t shift to that high end perspective, that gives us an overview that’s just much more holistic and.. You know, there’s a question that I love to ask myself when I’m really stuck with something. If a situation out there in the world is just feeling unfair, or someone I think is being unfair, and I get into that almost like a victim mentality and I catch myself doing that, then I like to turn that around and say, OK, so if Spirit was giving me the fastest way to evolve at this moment through this situation, then what am I being? What’s the opportunity being given here? You know, what would be like three spiritual lessons I’m getting here? And this actually comes from a book called The Heart Math Solution by Doc Childre. And it’s a lovely question. You know, it’s this idea of, OK, this feels really personal to me on a very human level. But if I look at this in terms of my spiritual evolution, that for me, that always turns it around, you know, it’s maybe, here I’m being given an opportunity to say something that’s difficult in a way that isn’t defensive or being given an opportunity to not just stay in the rest of my normal reactive thinking and to see if my emotional palette can be a little bit broader than that. If I can bring in some awareness here and respond in a new way, in a way that’s more authentic to who I am now. And whether this helps me to see people with more tolerance, you know, whatever it might be, when we shift to that spiritual perspective, it’s slightly broader now. We open up. We don’t stay this little isolated thing that needs defending. We’ve become our wholeness again. And there’s a lovely quotation, which is one of my favorites in the Course in Miracles. And it’s “in my defenselessness, my safety lies”. And I’ve been thinking about it a lot in these times. You know, I’ve been thinking about. How I’m seeing a lot of defensive behavior, and I’m also thinking about how when I see that defensive behavior, it can trigger my defensiveness because I don’t like the defensive behavior. You know, and there’s this crazy wheel that you get on. So it’s like, OK, yeah. What’s the spiritual gift to you? You know, can I open beyond that reactive activeness and just bed in a little bit more into my heart, and relax around this little bit more, and not have my moral policeman pop up inside and start saying things in my head. So I love the One-Flowered Wintergreen for its gentleness and its clarity. You know, I feel like I just tune back into the spiritual perspective again. And that feels really practical and really useful. 

Rochana Felde [00:49:26] Yeah. Very useful right now. But also just with any relationship and any marriage could probably use that one.  

Kathleen Aspenns [00:49:37] Yes. And also this to me, I’m looking at this. Everything you’ve been bringing up so far, it speaks to where we rest within our community. It’s not just that we are expanding outwards into this diffused spirituality, but it’s about how do we bridge that? How do we bring that into our communities, into our lives, into our relationships? And I love what you’re talking about. These essences, especially that first one. It grows up in community. It needs the support of its community in order to do what it does. Right? So I’m just so touched at this connection that that we’re experiencing right in this moment, where we’re connecting to each other as community and we’re able to ground in, just as these plants are doing, and forming that deep rootedness, and drawing on their community as they rise up into the flowering awareness of the greater Self, the wider story, the bigger picture. And I’m just so touched that we’re having this conversation today because it’s really tough when we feel all alone. And like you’re saying, that defensiveness comes up, I have to protect myself. And yet in this space right now, we can breathe a little bit and we can feel that connection and we can feel that support from each other and and from nature and from the essences. And  I’m so just darn touched that you’re with us today and in this moment with us. So thank you. 

Rachel Singleton [00:51:15] Thank you. And as it is, it’s lovely to. It’s lovely to remember this potential in ourselves as well. Because I think these times are really calling for this responsiveness, not reaction, but responsiveness. And there was a beautiful thing on Facebook the other day. Someone said we were made for these times. We’ve got this. And, you know, there’s just something about that. This is not something that needs to bring us down or break us. This is something that can be the opportunity after opportunity, moment after moment. To be in our tolerance and our love for ourselves and for others, you know, because as we turn that kindness towards our souls, then we’ve got an abundance to share. It comes from them. You know, I often think about the difference between giving from the solar plexus and giving from the heart chakra, you know, and when someone’s giving from the solar plexus, and the solar plexus is very much about self-identity and confidence and our sense of who we are. When we’re giving from that place, it often comes with a hidden price tag. It’s like we’re giving to get approval and there is a need. Behind that giving which other people will feel. And if we don’t get the price tag that we were hoping for, then we can feel resentful. And, you know, so a lot of duty and responsibility can come from that place. Whilst when we give from the heart, it’s just a loving, generous, intuitive response, a moment of outpouring and connection. It’s deeply heartwarming, it feeds us, it feeds the person that it’s going to. It’s just a two way street. It’s beautiful in its effort. So we can be doing good things on the outside, but it really does need to be connected up with our heart because otherwise we can drain ourselves and we can get into resentment and frustration because we haven’t been giving to ourselves. We’re just giving to everybody else. And there’s the potential certainly for care workers in this time who are being called on to give and give and give. That if they’re not giving back to themselves, then they can get burnt out and that care needs to be self-care and that that level of tending is deeply appropriate and not to be missed out on. I think that’s really important for people to remember. Feed it there, and it will just effortlessly pour out in beautiful ways. But if it’s coming out in snarky ways or it’s coming out in ways that feel a bit contractual like “I’ll do this for you. You’ll do this for me” then the likelihood is you have not been giving yourself enough. And, you know, it’s a good time to go back in and listen and tend to that. And there’s lovely, lovely essences for the heart. I mean, every single range has beautiful, glorious essences for the heart. So anything that just tends and touches and talks to that receiving love is beautiful for that. But yeah, I think that’s an important part of this, an important piece in these times. 

Rochana Felde [00:55:15] I am so appreciative of this energy that you’ve brought here today in  just helping coalesce these feelings and this light work that we’re all doing. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:55:32] Where can people find more about your work and about you? And we will, of course, put these links in the show notes. But I really want.. I feel so connected to you right now. And I’m going to run over to your Web site and look deeper into it, because I’m just really compelled by what you’ve shared. But how do our listeners find out more about you and your work? 

Rachel Singleton [00:55:53] OK. Well, there’s a there’s a few ways. So there’s the LightBringer website itself, which is lightbe.co.uk. And that’s got all the information on the essences. And you can sign up to my newsletter on that. And I don’t bombard, I tend to do a newsletter every month or two. So I won’t be in your inbox every week. And then I have my own website. RachelSingleton.com. And that’s where any information about anything I’m teaching, my consultations, and I work online. So I work with people all around the world and I do zoom and phone and all the rest of it. So people can work with me there. I also do something called soul readings, which are like a deep divinatory exploration of people’s soulscape at this time. They’re energetic landscapes. So you find out about all of those kinds of things on my offerings on there. And at the moment, I am offering essence consultations at half the price that I normally do because I just really want to offer that service in these times. And then I’m on Facebook, so you can follow me there. I’ve only really got going with that over the last few months. So I’m just just building up a tribe there. So join me there, it will be lovely. And I think those are the main ways. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:57:26] Wonderful. Well, thank you so much for being with us today. And we’re just really grateful for you sharing your message and your insights from so many beautiful years of healing work and helping people with the essences and beyond. So thanks so much for being here. And we hope everyone who’s listening will feel more grounded, and stable, and connected, and healed from hearing about the flowers ,and hearing about the gifts of nature that can help all of us endure and thrive even in these times with a measure of grace, perhaps. So hopefully you’ll join us again. We really hope that you will come again on the podcast. And we just want to send our love to our podcast family, everyone who listens to the podcast and shares these gifts with their friends and their family, of the essences, because these are powerful healing tools that will help us get through these times. So thank you. Thank you. 

Rachel Singleton [00:58:36] Thank you both. Thank you both. It’s been absolutely lovely to spend this time with you and to go deeper on things that feel so, so nurturing at this time. So thank you for this. Thanks to your listeners. 

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