FEP13 Holiday Travel & Social Anxiety [Holiday Coping Strategies]

Learn coping strategies for holiday travel and gatherings. Flower essences can help sensitives with the stress of travel and navigating airports and planes. You can also support your inner sense of groundedness and stability, and strengthen your boundaries as you interact with your family members.

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Rochana Felde [00:00:40] Greetings flower essence friends. I’m Rochana Felde, and in this episode, Kathleen Aspenns and I discuss more holiday coping strategies with flower and gem essences, this time focused on holiday travel and socializing. Traveling can be stressful at any time of the year, but the holiday season adds extra stress even for the most experienced jet setters. And if you are a highly sensitive person, HSP for short, introvert, or empath, holiday travel and social situations can be extra tricky and really take their toll. So let’s just dive right in, Kathleen. In our previous Emergency Essences episode, we talked about some off the shelf formulas like the Five Flower Rescue Remedy and the YES Yarrow Environmental Solution as being excellent for some of these concerns. But I know that there’s specific travel formulas. Would you like to get started talking about some of those? 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:01:49] Absolutely. I’m really happy to do that. The one that I think of the most is Travel Ease from Alaskan Essences. And that was designed for all of the challenges, electromagnetic stress, stress from crowding, and having your boundaries smooshed into a little tiny box in order to get into a plane. All of these things are part of travel and the Travel Ease formula is extremely helpful for helping you deal with them. I really recommend if you’re taking a longer flight or anything, not your normal sort of traveling, is to think about starting your taking these essences ahead of your travel, up to a week can be really useful, especially if you’re traveling across multiple time zones or you’re doing international travel. There is a level of geopathic stress that occurs just from crossing that many miles because our bodies are just not designed for that and it takes a toll on you. And one of those things that can show up is that your sleep gets disrupted or you feel really jet lagged or out of your body. And part of that is geopathic stress just from going over that many that many thousands of miles in such a short period of time. Using the Travel Ease flower essence in drops: Put it in your water and go ahead and keep putting it in your water as you travel and as you return. And then also the spray version is incredibly helpful for you to use as you’re traveling. Fortunately, it’s available in a two ounce size and so it travels well. And I’ll just keep misting over my heart as I’m in my seat. And usually that’s just fine to do. And it’s something nice that helps you remember to breathe, helps you remember to kind of center yourself and be in your own space as you’re enduring the challenges of travel. 

Rochana Felde [00:03:44] And what’s in the Travel Ease? Do you want to talk a little bit about some of the components. I know one aspect is the Black Tourmaline, which I love for electromagnetic protection, but also protection from other people’s energies and negativity. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:04:05] Yeah, for sure. Some of the big components of Travel Ease are these gem elixirs. And gem elixirs are really stabilizing and helpful in your energy field of your body. Having these essences onboard as you travel can be really helpful to help keep your boundaries really, really strong and help you keep from absorbing the energetic stresses, whether those are geopathic, or whether it is other people’s stuff. Like you say, Black Tourmaline really throws off the crud, throws off the energetic toxins. Covellite is a really great gem essence for your boundaries. It’s this really neat, dark blue crystal, well more of a stone really than a crystal, I think. And it has these qualities of strengthening your field, your etheric field so that nothing can get through that you don’t want to get through. Smoky Quartz also as part of the formula is really helpful for that energetic toxicity as well how it really helps to clear your energetic field. So those are the gems that form the heart of the Travel Ease formula. And then there’s the flower part of it that really speaks to your boundaries and helping you feel safe and secure even as you’re dealing with, you know, all the crowding when you’re getting jammed into a little tiny seat. And the energy is really funky. So Yarrow is an incredibly important essence for travel. Just in general, anytime you’re in an environment that’s not your own and you’re not really well supported, the Yarrows, all the different kinds of Yarrows are useful. This is a white Yarrow that’s included in this formula. And then White Violet is another one that’s very, very helpful. I remember Steve Johnson talking about this formula and how he created it. He was doing a lot of international travel to teach about essences. And he talked about one trip that he took to Japan. I think he said he had the incredible bad luck of finding himself in a middle seat. And he sat there, just jammed in there for hours and hours. He wasn’t a little guy, you know.  And he said there were children, there were crying babies, sort of strategically placed around the plane. And it was just really stressful. He was a very sensitive person, very energetically sensitive person, as you would probably expect for a Flower Essence maker like both of us. And he said White Violet just helped him to just have a sense of space, no matter all this stuff is going on, I still am in my space and I’m protected in that. Are you familiar with the Violets? Have you used them? 

Rochana Felde [00:06:56] I do, and I love all the Violets as well for any kind of being sensitive to the environment and the energies around you. It brings in that personal sanctuary feeling, there’s a coolness to them. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:07:12] Yeah, that’s right. They’re part of that very early spring energetic and so they do have that quality of coming out before all the trees leaf out and so they’re able to take that sunlight and transform it into the flowering. They are such delicate little flowers that you only notice after you’ve passed them. They have that fugitive little fragrance and they’re they’re so small and delicate, so close to the ground. And yet they really hold their own space. So anytime you spend time with them, you feel like it’s OK to just be you. You can be small and in the corner, but you’re safe where you are. 

Rochana Felde [00:07:53] Yeah. And the violets… I have worked with the flowers. They have their heads under the leaves. A lot of times you don’t even see that it’s flowering until you sort of brush aside the big round heart shaped leaf, which is also part of its signature, that gentle, loving, supportive, heart focused, heart based energy. And it’s really protected by that. So I kind of look at it as being protected by its own sensitivity, which is sort of an oxymoron. But it’s using its love aura to give itself the boundaries and protection that it needs. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:08:38] I like what you’re saying, because I think that’s been my experience. Also is that it has such a sense of presence, even though compared to us, it’s really tiny, but it’s just safe in its own space. And it has this quality that it grows in these lovely little drifts. But they all have their own space. They’re not crowded. And they have plenty of space and they’re just safe in their own little area that they grow. And I think you’re right about that quality, that creates a sense of spaciousness within you, even if you may not be in a literally spacious place at all. 

Rochana Felde [00:09:16] Right. And then also there’s the Yarrow, as you mentioned. And I’ve phrased that before as being like an energetic bubble wrap. I always think about the white Yarrow that way. So I think that’s perfect in this situation. And as you were saying, you know, when you’re sitting crammed into public transportation of any kind, but especially an airplane where you have nowhere to go, you’re just subject to the whims of fate as far as who you’re sitting next to, and if there’s crying babies…Whatever you may encounter on public transportation when you think of, you know, our personal space, your aura. There’s different schools of thought about how far that goes out from our body. But it does go out from our body. And definitely we’re overlapping auras with the people that we’re with in these tight, cramped spaces. You know, you don’t have to be physically touching, but energetically, we’re basically up in each other’s grills. And it can be so very uncomfortable if you’re not resonating with that person’s energy. For whatever reason, it could be a perfectly fine individual, but you’re not resonating with that energy and it’s uncomfortable to be that close to them. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:10:40] Oh, yeah, yeah. And that’s the wonderful blender that is the airport. You run into all sorts of energetics that are just not ones that you would intentionally run into. They’re not a good energetic match for you, and you need help supporting yourself as you do that, because that’s just reality. That’s just part of the process. These formulas that help create this sense of containment and purity of your own field, I guess I would use that word because it’s just your field. And even though it bumps up against other fields, you can keep your field from being overwhelmed by their field. I think that’s kind of an energetic that makes some sense to me as the stronger your field is, the less likely it is to feel that someone is invading your field. 

Rochana Felde [00:11:29] I absolutely agree. I think that’s good advice. In general, when you know you’re feeling like you need more protection because you’re being bombarded with other energies. A good place to start is just to ground yourself and to feel your own core energy solidifying. So that is the basic first step to really have any effective protection. And to not need as much protection as well. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:12:02] Yeah, even just recognizing the need for grounding. I think that traveling is is kind of an inherently ungrounded experience. You know, it’s just kind of how it is, you know, especially if you’re flying. You could not be less grounded, but when you land or even before you leave, just to sort of notice your feet, even if they’re in shoes on concrete or whatever, you know, noticing the action of your feet and imagining pretending that your feet have little rootlets, and that your little rootlets can get down into the ground, no matter how far they have to travel through this concrete, or whatever it is underneath your feet, and helping to remind yourself that you belong to the earth, that you belong where you are. It can help bring you back into groundedness when you’re… it’s the opposite of that ungroundedness. When you’re all up in your head and you’re distracted and anxious and jittery. Remind yourself, I am a creature of the earth. My feet touch the earth. Even if there’s some obstacles in the way. I’m still part of gravity here. I’m still connected to the planet. And that can help to change that dynamic where you can get really spun out. 

Rochana Felde [00:13:24] Yeah, and I even recommend carrying a physical gemstone like the black tourmaline or another highly grounding and protective stone. A rock from your driveway. You know, any stone, really. But you know, you can get more creative with it. To have in the pocket while you’re traveling, and especially up in the air. I think that’s really helpful, too. It’s something for your hands to do, too, while you’re sitting there. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:13:50] Yeah, that makes a lot of sense, too, because you can just have your hand in your pocket and just be touching your little stone. You are going to have to take that out of your pocket when you go through the radar detection, you’re not going to be able to walk through that. When you have big stones in your luggage they really are very fascinated with them. 

Rochana Felde [00:14:10] You don’t have to have a big one. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:14:13] Yeah, small ones work just fine. It’s really not a problem. It’s not about size. Guardian is also another one, I’m sure we’ve talked about it before, but Guardian from the Alaskan Essences is another one that’s very helpful for reestablishing your sense of grounding and reestablishing your sense of of boundary. And that can be a nice fit. There’s a lot of overlap with the Travel Ease formula and Guardian, but those are two formulas that are that are worthwhile to be thinking about. One of the topics that… To me seems if not obvious, it’s apparent to me whenever I’m traveling, because I do so much work with animals, and I’m always thinking about behavior, and the way the world works through the lens of animal behavior, because, you know, we are mammals and we do act a lot like animals as well. We just like to pretend that we’re not. But whenever you put animals in a stressful circumstance and you crowd them, they’re going to tend to do either one of two things. They’re going to get aggressive and hostile or they’re gonna get more shut down and escape into themselves into a dullness. And you can see this taking place as you’re going through the TSA line. You’ll see some people are just ready to start something, fortunately it’s not very many of them. But that’s just a normal response to having your boundaries stomped. That’s a normal response to having your sense of autonomy and personhood taken away from you. And I’m using personhood very broadly because your dog will do the same thing if you don’t treat him or her like a sentient being. And so you can get that and, you know, you’re going to be dealing with some hostility from people who are working there, and being able to recognize what’s causing that. It’s the crowding, it’s the stress..you know, being crowded is stressful. I love Temple Grandin. I love to read her books on animal behavior and management, because she’s getting real about what happens when you crowd animals and you stress them. This is what happens. I think that she should be designing airports, honestly. 

Rochana Felde [00:16:34] Well, that’s brilliant. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:16:36] They’d be much more pleasant places to be, wouldn’t they? So if you know that you’re prone to that, you can help yourself manage it with some essences. Beech from Dr. Bach is a really helpful one for that sort of aggressive, agitated… we  use that little shorthand of, when you’re feeling “Beechy, Beechy, Beechy”. And then Holly’s also really helpful for that feeling of … Dr. Bach said vexation of the heart. So whenever you’re just feeling like you’re not getting what you need. And this is just not working for me. And I’m just feeling like nobody gives a damn. You know, having some Holly on board can be really helpful as well. 

Rochana Felde [00:17:23] I really like what you’re saying about thinking in terms of of animal reactions and having that observation about how they react in these situations, because it reminds us that, you know, we have these animal emotions and we don’t think about that, or we forget about that when we’re totally wrapped up in our mind and our mental thought processes. But yet those things are happening and they often take us by surprise because we aren’t paying attention to them. So that flying off the handle, the anger or just the shutting down and having a horrible time are exactly what I see as well with these situations. So it’s really interesting and a good idea. I like thinking about that. Not that we want to think of ourselves as animals, but why not? We are. I mean, I don’t mind. But you know, the idea that for some people it just might be a form of foreign thought. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:18:25] Right. Yes. I’m always really careful when I introduce the idea because some people can get very upset about talking about humans in that way. But I think that it just makes us more relatable. And for me, it just helps me understand people better when I when I go, oh, yeah, he’s doing that because he’s scared, you know, or she’s doing that because she’s feeling powerless and she’s going to react that way. Oh, OK. You know that. If I’m coming at it from like, oh, that guy’s a jerk. Instead, I’m going, oh, I wonder what we can do to help make this better. 

Rochana Felde [00:18:59] It’s actually a form of emotional intelligence to be able to see that and think that way. So I like it a lot. I did want to mention, too, that the Alaskan Travel Ease formula, it also comes in a spray with essential oils, which is lovely as all their  aromatic sprays are. But I would not recommend spraying that in a confined space on the plane. Please, you know, have sensitivity to the close quarters and not inflict aromas on others who might be allergic or sensitive. I mean, there’s no place for that smell to go in an airplane. So a lot of people talk about taking essential oils on the plane for calming down. And if you’d like to do that, I recommend getting one of those nasal aromatherapy inhalers. They look like the little Vicks inhaler tubes. And you can make a personal inhaler that only you will smell and you can even spray some of that Travel Ease onto the cotton wick inside the aroma tube and use that. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:20:09] Yeah, that’s an interesting point. I’ve used the Travel Ease spray on the plane before. And what I do is I check with my seatmate or, you know, on each side and see if that’s okay with them. And I’ve never really had problems with anybody, but it’s really appropriate to ask. Fortunately, these sprays are made with a very low amount of oil. So it doesn’t tend to sort of invade a space in the way that if you were uncapping an essential oil bottle, you know, neat and applying it, it doesn’t tend to invade. And when I use it, I just mist it right over my heart, really close to my body, rather than sort of getting way over my head and just going to town. So, yeah, it’s interesting. I think you should be really sensitive to the people around you because they, too, are stressed. And sometimes that could be helpful, to offer would you like to have some too?. But yeah, I think you’re right in that you want to be really cognizant of what you’re putting into the environment because not everybody wants that.  

Rochana Felde [00:21:12] And just from my aromatherapy background to, some people can be allergic to even the most benign things like lavender. I know people who can’t even walk by a lavender plant without going into an allergic reaction. And the way that smell can travel, you know, there might be somebody a couple rows behind you that you didn’t have a chance to ask. So I think just as a general rule it’s better to try to have it in something like an aroma inhaler that doesn’t go out into the air. But you can put that right up to your nose and get a big, nice whiff. And actually, it’s an even more efficient way of using it in that situation when you’re not trying to spray the room like some other room sprays. Also, from the perspective of a highly sensitive person, or HSP, as I mentioned, those are a subset of the population that have extremely sensitive senses and smell being one of them. And so I can attest to being able to smell things that other people can’t smell. And that’s part of the stress of traveling for an HSP. Being completely out of control, an environment that has smells, bright lights, loud sounds, all of these things that can really hammer us and make it a harder thing to do. So all these essences that we’re talking about are extremely valuable for the highly sensitive person. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:22:59] And the good news is that if you’re using just pure flower essences, there’s no chance that you’ll be causing problems for anyone else because they are something that you’ll be using internally or on your skin, perhaps. But there’s no smell or taste that could be creating any issues for anyone around you. That’s one of the best things about Flower Essences. That there’s really no chance of harm. And so the other element to stressed and overwhelmed is that quality of being shut down. And I think that’s a really crucial part that’s really baked in to the traveling system when you’re kind of treated like cattle and and, you know, stuck into a line that winds around and around. And then, you know, you have to be made uncomfortable by taking your clothes off, your outer clothes and your shoes and all your things. And you’re hustled along by the people right behind you. And it’s very stressful. And so a lot of people do tend to shut down. And you can just look around the people around you, if you’re standing in line like that, you see that everybody’s got a dullness to them. They’re just trying to endure. And you can help bring back some of that light. You know, this is an injury to the Shen. This is an injury to the spirit that has to be endured while you go out, while you travel. And I think Star of Bethlehem can be a really worthwhile helper in bringing your light back, and bringing the part of you back that had to go away in order to go through that. And that’s a sweet part of ourselves that we’d hate to lose for extended periods of time. 

Rochana Felde [00:24:46] Yeah, I hadn’t thought about that. Soul crushing process, literally, is to go through an airport and travel these days. That’s definitely an aspect to the challenge. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:25:00] Yeah, it literally is soul crushing. It’s you know, from start to finish. You know, you have to get onto a plane and you get stuffed into a seat and you can’t move around. And you’re on somebody else’s schedule. And yeah, it’s very stressful. So I think Star of Bethlehem is useful. I also think about some of the Magnolias from my Flora of Asia collection. The Yulan Magnolia is particularly helpful for bringing your breath back, bringing your soul back into your body, through your breath. When we’re shut down, we tend to breathe really shallowly. And, you know, it’s also kind of crowded and icky in there. And you don’t really want to. It’s not a great place to be doing deep breathing. Your body’s compressed, you’re stuffed into a seat and the Yulan Magnolia can help to help your spirit re inhabit your form as you endure this. And then also as you clear that energy off of you as you leave. 

Rochana Felde [00:25:58] Lovely. And I was just reminded then too, of Soul Support as also being helpful in that situation. Especially if there’s fear, you know, if there’s fear of flying. You know, I think that would be a good one. Also, just add Mimulus to anything or everything that you know. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:26:22] We hadn’t even broached the topic of somebody who has a phobia of flying because, yeah, let’s throw on another layer. I was just talking about something that happens to absolutely everybody. But then you throw in some elements of that fear of flying, that lack of control that you have. Yeah. Mimulus is helpful. Soul Support, I think is really a useful one for that because it does help you to come back into yourself and and get through that fear. This is where Rescue Remedy is really great. If you have a phobia around flying, you should be starting to take Rescue Remedy when you buy your ticket, because you’re already kind of triggered, you’re already ahead of time getting triggered about flying. Taking that, and then taking the Soul Support, I think would be really worthwhile. 

Rochana Felde [00:27:11] Yeah, and I would add Mimulus to the Rescue, right? Yeah. I mean, I I there’s so many situations where I think, you know, let’s just have a six flower formula. I add Mimulus to a lot of things.

Kathleen Aspenns [00:27:27] Well, I think that that Five Flower can be tuned to whatever you need. And so I’ll recommend that a lot. So, Five Flower is the basic shock formula or the crisis formula. But if you have an actual situation that sends it towards one of those issues, if you’ve had a loss of consciousness, then add (double add in because it’s part of it already) Clematis. Clematis is part of the core formula. But if you dosed Clematis into Five Flower formula, it tunes the formula towards that specific need. And also, like you’re saying, if you’re dealing with a situation that you have a known fear, then adding Mimulus to Five Flower formula will tune Five Flower to your specific need. 

Rochana Felde [00:28:18] Yeah, I do that all the time. I just think Mimulus specifically seems to go very well with most situations that you’re using Five Flower for. There’s some other blends by some other makers – I’ve used the Delta Gardens Protection Blend and really like that for all sorts of scenarios where I feel like I want to increase my energetic boundaries. And that one has Angelica, Cinquefoil, Pennyroyal, Rue, St John’s Wort and Yarrow. And I know from working with Pennyroyal, it’s one of the most powerful protective essences I’ve made. Rue also has that energy, although I haven’t made one from Rue yet. Have you worked with either of those? 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:29:13] Yes, I use that formula from time to time. And like you were mentioning, that formula is designed more as that energetic protection from, let’s say, icky influences. However you would describe that…sort of toxic energies. And the way that I would read it would be more like human toxic. This is an unhealthy person near me. This is an unbalanced person near me. There may be some attachments involved, that kind of thing. The protection formula from Delta is really helpful for that. The Angelica sets the tone of that spiritual protection. And then those other essences are helpful for those different types of funky energies and attachments. The ones we were talking about before, the Alaskans, have so much earth energy to them. So each formula has its strengths. Each formula has has different qualities that you can bring into it. And what you’re talking about, the Protection blend is really helpful for an empath, a sensitive person. When you’re walking through an airport, you can be picking up on all sorts of things that these people are going through. And if you’re not clear enough to recognise that’s not your stuff, then it can be really a burden. 

Rochana Felde [00:30:32] Absolutely. And then there’s another one Veil of Light by Jane Bell. And I’ve used that just a little bit. I haven’t had a chance to test it out in a highly intense environment like an airport or traveling. What do you think of that one? 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:30:51] I love Veil of Light, it has such a high toned energy. It’s so pure. It is useful for somebody who’s very, very sensitive. It absolutely has a clearing quality because it was made from Hawaiian plants and flowers. It has that Hawaiian quality of a warmth and enveloping. I guess you could even say, angelic quality to it. And it’s not as much about banishing. It’s more creating this shimmering veil around you that nothing can get through. Just a different a different accent on what you’re thinking about. 

Rochana Felde [00:31:40] Yeah. And it kind of goes back to what you’re saying about increasing your own light, your own energy field, your sort of force around you. So I could see that shimmering kind of forcefield. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:31:56] When I was working with Jane to create the spray version of Veil of Light, we were really going for with the oil blend, was making sure that it had that shimmering quality to it as well. So the essences have that. They have that quality like a force field. Hence the name Veil of Light? You know, you’re encased in this wonderful shimmering bubble. And then the oil blend that comes with the spray just gives you more of that, gives you a more concrete experience of that. Both formulas are very good for traveling. And we could bridge this topic into where you’re going. You know, where are you headed? Are you headed into a bunch of social situations that are also possibly somewhat uncomfortable, but they probably won’t involve frisking like they might at the airport, but still maybe less fun? But if you’re dealing with a lot of social situations that you’re maybe not that enthusiastic about, a Veil of Light is incredibly helpful for keeping you feeling in your own place with integrity of your field. 

Rochana Felde [00:33:05] Yeah, I’m gonna start using that one more. And really, it’s so lovely. I mean, I use it in passing, but it’s just got a great energy. That’s really cool that you were able to be a part of that. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:33:20] Yeah. I was working as her assistant practitioner during that entire time of the creation of those essences and then the launching of that line. So I got to meet them in mother form and help with the initial research. And I contributed an essence to that line as well. So I love the Hawaiian Essences from Jane Bell because I know them so well. I was sort of the doula for that line, helping to birth it. They’re so sweet. They have such lovely energy. 

Rochana Felde [00:33:52] So what else should we think about in an uncomfortable social event? And as you’re saying, I think this goes along really well with traveling because you’re basically in an environment, especially if you’ve traveled there and it’s not your own event, and you don’t have control over the lights and the sounds and the smells and just, you know, your environmental area. And then you may be bombarded with other people’s energies as well. You might have to sit next to someone or strike up small talk with someone that you might not normally because they’re family or because it’s a work event. So there’s a lot of ways we could look at the formulas for this. But I mean, I think a lot of them are very similar to the essences that are in some of these formulas we’ve been talking about. 

Rochana Felde [00:34:48] Oh, not dissimilar at all. It’s the same topic, just a slightly different tune. The Sea Turtle from Jane Bell’s Hawaiian Essences is one that I think about a lot for this social interaction quality. It helps you to find a level of comfort in social interactions so they don’t feel draining, they feel more supportive. So there is something that shifts within you that helps you to recognize and maybe even attract social situations and engagements that will be more supportive of you and more fun rather than the social obligations. There’s something really interesting about that Sea Turtle essence that helps to shift that inner conversation from “I can’t deal with people” to, “hey, this is a person I like, I’m going to spend some time with this person”. 

Rochana Felde [00:35:45] That’s one that I have not tried. And I’m really curious as to the signature of the turtle, is it because it has that hard shell and it can choose to poke its head in or out? What can you say about the signature of that animal that lends itself to that essence? 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:36:08] Oh, that’s such an interesting question. I have to think about that a little bit. One of the things to know about a Nature Essence, which is what Jane talks about with these essences that involve animals. She made one with a Whale essence and then the Sea Turtle essence. So, you know, the first thing to recognize is that no animals were harmed in the making of these essences. It is an energetic essence of this animal that occurred organically when the animal offered. So the consciousness of the animal, what was drawn to work with her to create this essence. And in this case, with the sea turtle, Jane, was sitting there on the beach and the turtle came out and walked up quite close to where she was sitting and was just resting there. So she didn’t approach the turtle. And certainly the turtle was not obliged to go into the bowl, but the bowl came out. And the turtle hung out during the time that this essence was being made. And so offered this energetic signature into into the water. And one of the things that I think about with Sea Turtle is that they have this ability to move between environments. They go into the water and they come out on the shore. They have a wonderfully protective shell. And yet it’s almost skin covered there. They have this ability to flow with these different environments and to interact as they choose. So you see them flying in the water. They seem like they’re flying in the water. And they will come up to you even. They’re not afraid of people. And they find people interesting. And yet when they’re done, off they go. So I think that this Sea Turtle essence has this quality of choosing the interaction and feeling safe in various circumstances – in the water, out of the water, near people, away from people. They have this kind of self-contained quality, I think. 

Rochana Felde [00:38:11] Wow. Thank you for elaborating on that. I was really curious about that one in particular, already having the understanding about the way that these animal essences are made. What a great story that it just walked up on the beach. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:38:31] Yeah. That’s the process of making essences. You know this from making flower essences. These odd things will come about. These odd circumstances will come about and you just go, oh, something’s happening here. This is not a normal circumstance, we’re now in a liminal space. Something magical is happening. The last time I was in Hawaii, last year, I was with Jane. I was working with her to remake some of these essences. And on the last day, as I was walking down to the water and saying goodbye to Hawaii, you know I love to get my feet in the water. And this turtle came floating up and kind of checking me out. And the Hawaiian guy who was standing nearby, he says, “look, there’s a turtle”. He told me it’s a blessing in the Hawaiian culture. It’s a blessing when the turtles come to you. So I love turtles. 

Rochana Felde [00:39:21] That’s beautiful. That is just beautiful. Well, some of the other essences I think about for social interaction are the other Yarrows. Besides the white, or in addition to the white or the Golden Yarrow and the Pink Yarrow. And I like how the Golden Yarrow helps you feel less worn out by the environment and crowds, and also has that quality of strengthening your third chakra, just your sense of self. So it’s giving you that protective energy like the White Yarrow, but it’s helping more of your identity stay protected. And I think that’s important, especially if we’re traveling to some kind of family event for the holidays and we want to stay connected to who we are, because any such social situations where sometimes you can get caught up playing a role. Some folks will have trouble just staying true to themselves in their interactions. And that would be a good one for that. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:40:26] I think that Golden Yarrow is so important for what you’re talking about, because if you’re going into a family situation and you don’t want so much stuff being thrown at you. Golden Yarrow keeps your own integrity and keeps people from being able to project quite as much onto you. So like when you when you get stuck in a social situation, they kind of expect you to fulfill a role. The Golden Yarrow will help you to stay strong in yourself where they won’t be able to put quite as much onto you. And I think even there is an element to Golden Yarrow… as I was thinking about this, I was thinking about that that scene in Sixteen Candles. Here we are dating ourselves, Gen Xers. In the scene in Sixteen Candles, where the lead character, you know, her grandmother or something comes up to her and goes, “look, you’ve got boobies now”. You know that you just don’t want that kind of attention. Thanks very much. I just want to be doing my thing. You know how families are. They could be just so overwhelming with an appearance change or, you know, you cut your hair, you should have done that, or not so subtle hints if you’ve gained weight. But just all that stuff, like, please, just give me some space. All the things, all the things. You know, they’re being helpful. I think they think they’re being helpful. But, you know, Golden Yarrow can just be like, okay, you just keep your stuff over there and I’ll be just doing my thing over here. 

Rochana Felde [00:42:02] Pretty funny. The Sixteen Candles reference. I love it. I was just thinking, you know, maybe we should we should do some “what flower essence for what movie character” it could be a very entertaining Instagram conversation. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:42:15] I think we should totally have that. We could really have some fun with that one. Yeah. I’ve often thought about these archetypal characters. Like what essence are they? It’s a fun conversation to have. So, yes, let’s do it on social. Everyone throw some suggestions at us for these main characters. 

Rochana Felde [00:42:36] And then, of course, the Pink Yarrow. Especially if you’re on that spectrum of HSP, or empath where you can take on other people’s problems or energies. And that Pink Yarrow is excellent for that. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:42:51] Yeah. All the Yarrows have those different qualities. So if you if you’re interested in, or if you have a particular vulnerability in a particular chakra or energy center, then you can be matching the Yarrow with whatever that energy center is, whether it’s, say, the Lavender Yarrow, which helps to protect your upper chakras. The White Yarrows are kind of the whole system. And then you can tap in, if you have a particular vulnerability or weakness in any of your centers for that. There’s a lot of good help. And even, you know, the nerves from dealing with so many people, and being in a crowded situation, be sure to take care of yourself before you try to go to sleep. If you have some essence blends, go ahead and mist your room. I think Lavender flower essence is very helpful for getting your nerves unwound. Any of the grounding formulas are really helpful before you try to sleep. That’s a really good time to be sure that your energy field is really clear before you try to rest and get some sleep. 

Rochana Felde [00:44:02] And then another thing we might want to go into more detail on a future episode might be diving in more to the HSP, empath and introvert, unique concerns. Which we sort of touched on today. I like working with those, especially since I’m all three. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:44:25] Welcome to the club. 

Rochana Felde [00:44:26] I’ve got a lot of learned experience with that one. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:44:31] And there’s a couple resources that we’d like to share with you. Also we’ll put in the show notes some books that are really helpful for sensitive people because I think it’s really useful to be cognizant of… Oh, I’m not alone. There are people like me and there’s help for people like me. 

Rochana Felde [00:44:52] Yeah. Very illuminating. The book Quiet by Susan Kane was sort of a life changer for me when I first read it, as well as the Highly Sensitive Person by Dr. Elaine Aaron. So we’ll put those links in the show notes. 

Kathleen Aspenns [00:45:07] And as always, thank you so much for listening. We’re really happy to have you along on this ride. The wonderful world of the flowers and nature can help us to birth a better world around us and be better people as we travel and as we interact with our families or whoever else we’re traveling to go see, we can be the best we can be and try to create more harmonious interactions with others around us. And if you like this podcast, please feel free to give us a review on iTunes. And that will help other people find it and help us get more visibility. And I also just wanted to thank those who have been interacting with us on social media because the conversations are excellent and it’s really helpful to hear your feedback. Thank you very much, everyone. We look forward to talking to you again really soon.

[00:46:39] This podcast is meant for educational and entertainment purposes only. We are not physicians and do not diagnose, prescribe or treat medical conditions. Please consult with your own physician or health care practitioner regarding the suggestions and recommendations made by the hosts and guests of the Flower Essence podcast. 

FEP14 The Winter Season

January 1, 2020